another launch |
I sit here with my throat tight from holding back tears. I have received so much wonderful advice and insight about how to think and feel about my youngest child leaving the nest, but my thoughts and feelings aren’t fitting into any orderly category. I have been anticipating this day for almost a year now and I believe God has prepared me for it.
The reality is that my son is only moving across town. The reality is that I will see him fairly often because we both are involved in youth ministry at our church. So I guess it isn’t my son moving out that is so hard. It is more the idea that the texture of motherhood that I am so familiar with has ended. Of course I am still a mom, but by necessity and by design, it looks different now.
There is no doubt at all that I am incredibly grateful and thankful to see my 4th child launch into college life. He is a Christ following young man. He is living in an awesome community. I know he will contribute to the community. He is involved in ministry. He will have a mentor and a small group. He is going to learn new things, make new friends, and grow in so many ways that I don’t even know yet.
And there is no doubt that I am excited to deepen my companionship with my husband; to have more energy for one another, to share new adventure together...
I do feel those things, but they are eclipsed…
My predominate feeling today is emptiness. Emptiness is such a painful feeling. I am trying to sit with it, knowing that I need to journey through this part of the experience and move on. But it feels terrible. I’m trying to have courage to absorb it, but it is so hard.
I don’t have any clever conclusion to this blog post. I don’t even know if anyone will read it. But it was good for me to write it. In the coming days I will be able to look back on it and see God’s tender mercy with my heart as he leads me forward from a 'trembling page one' of this new chapter.
The comfort in all this: God is faithful. I have a pulse. He has a plan. His plan is good.
Father God. I want to serve you. Even, while my face is still damp with tears, I am ready to roll! Where you lead me, I will follow.